Is it "Generosity" if Your Expect to Receive in Return?

True Generosity has only 1 rule:  Give freely with an intent to serve. 

There is no "getting" in the equation.  That's not to say that you won't receive in return.  You will receive, as long as you are open and available to letting in what comes to you. 

I've always thought of this as the Law of Reciprocity.  Such laws are the way of the Universe, and show us ways to live well and to thrive.  This law ~ one of my favorites because it feels like a dance ~ shows us to contribute to others, to serve.  The reciprocal action is that Life will conspire to contribute to you as well.

Some people describe the Law of Reciprocity as being the same as the Golden Rule which you know says: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  This doesn't mean do what you want them to want.  It means:  Do unto others as they wish to have done.  Because we each want to be done unto in our way!

You can think of the Law of Reciprocity like this:

1. Give freely with an intent to serve.
2. Ask for what you want.
3. Be open to receiving what you want.
4. Continuously repeat 1-2-3.

Step 1 : Give freely with an intent to serve. 

This means you give what they ask for -- not always what you think they need.  You give with an open hand.  They do with it what they will, that's not up to you.  Let's say your friend calls and asks your feedback or suggestions about something she's working on.  You agree to look, listen and offer your impressions.  Freely.  You let go once you give your offering.  She'll use it in whatever way she chooses.  That is not up to you.

The trick here is not to be offended - or controlling! - if she doesn't act on your suggestions. (or to judge, blame or shame her or yourself for it.)  Remember you gave freely with an intent to serve.  It's like releasing a bird from your hands to fly.  Imagine you have bird in your hands.  You raise your arms and open your hands to release it.  The bird flies.  Where it goes and what it does next is up to the bird.  You simply did your part.

That's how it is to give freely with an intent to serve.  You have something in your hands (your mind, your creativity, your closet, your wallet, your intuition).  You offer it up and release.  That's it.

Try it with your family, your beloved or best friend.  Keep this in mind when you make a donation, when you serve a client.

Step 2 :  Ask for what you want.  First be clear.  What is it that you want?  From your heart and soul, what do you want and why.  When you answer these questions you discover not just "what" you want by "why."  And your "why" is the energectic connection and expression that sends a vibration to attract your desire.

Once you know what you want you may choose to ask your friend who asked for your feedback.  Is she the person who can help with what you're looking for?  If not, don't worry, the Law of Reciprocity is still at work.  There are over 6 billion people on the planet, plus Universal principles show us that energy flows perpetually - and not necessarily through people!  Part of the beauty of this is it's not an "I-gave-to-you-So-you-give-to-me" kind of exchange.

Ask for what you want, and ask who is best suited to provide what you're needing or wanting.  It may be that you will ask a person, or a team of people.  Maybe you'll ask in prayer to be shown the way to what you want.  Whomever or however you ask, do it with the belief that all that you need or want is here for you.

Step 3 :  Be open to receiving what you want.

For some people I work with this is the trickiest step of all.  What you want may come disguised in some way -- and you might not allow it to flow to you if you have rules that prevent it from being revealed to you.

So I suggest you practice receiving and allowing.  This means that when someone gives you a compliment, receive it with gratitude.  When you excuse, explain or apologize for how/why it's not important, you're teaching everyone - you, the other person, and Universal law - that you don't accept or receive blessings when they come to you.

Allow the ideas, people, opportunities and offers that come to you to guide you in the direction of what you want.  The answers may come in the form of an invitation to an event, or a suggestion from a friend.  It may be so simple you may not notice it at first - a message in an email, a person who you just me, an opportunity to go somewhere.

Step 4 : Continuously repeat 1-2-3

You see, really there is no starting place on the continuum.  The Law of Reciprocity is ever moving, flowing, creating energy and responding to your action and intention.  It's like an infinity symbol

• At the center point is you.
• Give freely with an intent to serve, sending energy out from center into the loop.  Your generosity sends an invisible message out, saying you contribute to the WellBeing of others freely.  The bend in the form returns energy to you.
• Ask for what your want, sending energy out from center into the loop in another direction.  The combination of your desire, your belief, and your ability to receive all propel the energy loop to bring to you what you desire.
• Step into the loop at any point.  It's ever-flowing and continuous.  And worth celebrating.

Which brings me to a bonus step:

Celebrate at every turn.  Feel grateful that you serve.  Be grateful that you feel your desire.  Celebrate at every turn, at every point along the way.  And as you do this, you will amplify your personal vibration, and put all these steps into even more exciting propulsion.  Feel and express your gratitude for all the joys you have in your life.  You'll open the gates for even more to flow to you.  And you know what that means, right?  You'll have even more to give freely with an intent to serve.  Imagine!

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I'd love for you to share your insights, discoveries, questions, ideas... whatever springs up for you when you think of Generosity, Reciprocity, Service, Allowing, Gratitude, Desire...  I invite you to share your comments here.

Blessings to you,

Tambra